Tony does not cope with shopping. He hates crowds, detests making decisions, and doesn’t cope with my habit of wanting to browse. I have recently decided that I need to browse only when I shop on my own. Inflicting browsing on him, just makes him cranky, and its a less enjoyable outing.
First stop ….. Bunnings. ……..we bought a ladder (to get to the light fittings) and the other stuff we needed. Walked out of the shop talking to each other in the same tone we used going in ….. so all is good.
Next stop …… Belconnen Markets. We went and looked at the Tagine he was interested in …. but have decided that it probably has the same impact as the slow cooker, and I just can’t store another piece of cooking equipment. Was seriously tempted to pick up the coffee pot …. but baulked at paying over $100 for a little pot. Bought all the meat I need for the fortnight, and got a stack of fruit and veg. Stopped in the deli, picked up some conchigloni, and a nice loaf of italian bread. Forgot the fresh spinach and ricotta …. but that is probably best picked up the day I make the dish anyway.
Have come home …… He has unwrapped the ladder, fixed the light fitting in Miss16’s room, installed a lovely bright bulb in my room, and is now happily pottering away with his bike. Best of all …. despite a couple of hours shopping …… he is the same mood he was in before we went out. Which to me is a much better outcome.
As women, we try to control our partners, expecting them to change their responses to match our own. Why not try accepting their own individual personality? ….. its not that big a stretch for me ….. and it means a much happier day.  I think it has a lot to do with motherhood ….. for years we control every aspect of a child’s life ….. when they eat, sleep, play …. and to a certain point … what they think.
Its good to remember that our husbands aren’t another child, who needs to have every aspect of their lives controlled and directed.
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