I thought this would have to happen at some point. Nathan was very young (3) when Isabeau died, and while we included him in the grieving process, we didn’t think that he would remember all that much of the experience.
Yesterday he asked me how his other sister died. Previously we just said that she was too little to come home, but now he wanted details ….. what happened to make her die. So I gave a little impromtu lesson on how babies need 40 weeks to grow, and that Isabeau was born to early, and so hadn’t finished growing properly, so she couldn’t survive outside of my body.  He was interested to know why she came out early, but I am not sure I am ready to explain premature labour to him, or why I lost the amniotic fluid so early, so I tried to generalise a little.Â
Then he asked what her name was. Seems he was telling his friend about her, and called her Elizabeth, but he was upset because he knew that wasn’t right. I told him it was ok …. that mummy would remember her just fine, and that I understood that lots of other stuff in his life made him forget.  Â
